I’m sure you’ve been around the city and have seen the “Sarah Marshall” posters, you know, the ones that say, “I hate you Sarah Marshall”, “You do look fat in those jeans Sarah Marshall”.

Well, they’re all part of advertisements for the new movie called “Forgetting Sarah Marshall”. Don’t worry, this isn’t a movie a review but some recent events have happen in my life, so I feel I need to address the subject that so many teens go through, when getting over someone.

Getting over someone can never be easy, especially if you think you’re “in love”. It hurts real badly but people take break ups real differently. More often then not, at least among my friends, its usually the female that takes it the hardest. I suspect its because we’re such emotional creatures. In “Forgetting Sarah Marshall” it actually takes the breakup from the male perspective, which I feel is a bit refreshing since we always see movies that show the female getting her heart broken. It’s nice to see the male in a sort of vulnerable situation. But regardless of the movie, breaking up or getting dumped isn’t a comedic movie, its real life and it hurts.

So how do you get over and start forgetting the one you care for? I mean, do you want to forget? And an even harder question to ask is how do you get over someone who doesn’t love you back? On top of that, the one you love loves someone else is just heartbreaking. So how do you get over it? How do you forget it?

You know, I don’t for sure but my friend Jamilia (pronounced Jamilya) told me that getting broke up with is like hitting a brick wall. It is best not to think about the ‘could of’, ‘would of’, and ‘should of’ beens.

She told me that you don’t need to forget the past because it will only make you stronger. You may find that the one you love isn’t the one that is good for you. We started talking about the common mistakes we, as young women, make when it comes to relationships. We always go for the bad boys, we don’t want the dude that’s going to be a doctor in a year, we want the guy that’s either going to be in jail or on the corner selling drugs in a year. We make stupid comments like “I’m his main”. Did we ever stop to think and ask ourselves “Why I do we have to be his main?” you know the crazy thing is, is that we’re not stupid, we know what is best for us we just don’t listen, to ourselves! Isn’t that crazy? My suggestion is that you should just take it one day at a time, it is ok to cry, it’s ok to be mad for a while, it’s ok to talk about it, or write it down. Just get over it on your own time. You can be happy again and there will be someone out there for you. With patience there is great rewards.

-Markeda Ann Cottonham